We would like to introduce you to our Guest Writer, Minister V.
MINISTER V, known to most as simply Vanessa, is a mother, sister and friend. Passionate and not afraid to speak the truth, this young woman of God, now twenty five and having come a long way, has much to share about her life and relationship with Jesus Christ. Currently enrolled at The Montreal School of Ministry, in the Ministerial Internship Program, this young lady is eager to serve the Kingdom of God and relay the gospel message of Christ. You can find Vanessa on Sunday mornings at The Resurrection Center Church of God, in Montreal, Canada where she resides, this is her first article.
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Breaking up is hard to do.
When you have sexual intercourse with someone you become one flesh, "and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh," (Mark 10:8) so, you are considered taken by that person, taken as in married! That means spiritually you are in a counterfeit marriage! No walk down the aisle or pretty white dress; in the spirit realm, this is it! When you break up, it literally tears apart the two people and it is physically painful because your emotions and your body are involved. Ever wonder why you hurt so badly after breaking up? You’re going through a spiritual divorce! That is why the bible talks about joining one man to one wife, Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh, (Gen 2:24). God intended us to be with one person, someone with whom we are equally yoked, sharing the same values with and can anticipate a firm foundation on the solid Rock that is Christ. When you’re married, there is no tearing apart flesh as marriage is for life. It is in times of trouble that the same foundation will keep you from breaking up.
One of the reasons I believe we have sex before marriage is because we do not understand the extent of the damage that it causes spiritually. Everyone you sleep with becomes a part of you, and creating an unhealthy cycle we carry what our sexual partners have given us and attach whatever we have received to the next person. With each sexual partner we become connected and when we disconnect, we are left damaged. It is not God’s will that we present ourselves to our future husband or wife, emotionally disfigured. The Word cautions us, Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life (Prov.4:23) because we make decisions about love and sex with our hearts. The purpose of marriage is divine because God understands the need to be with someone, And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him,” (Gen 2:18). The point of abstaining from sex before marriage is not to deprive one of sexual desires, but rather to ensure that when you’re ready for marriage you enter into your marriage spiritually and physically healthy.
Don’t forget that God created us in His image (Gen 1:27) and He fashioned each one of us in the womb (Jeremiah 1:5), created for His specific purpose. He knows what is best, it is us who take it upon ourselves to do as we please and lead our lives in the way we see fit. The bible says, Commit your ways to the LORD, And your thoughts will be established-A man’s heart plans his way, But the LORD directs his steps, (Prov. 16:3, 9) so as we pursue future relationships we need to remain mindful of His Word and His calling; our aim should be to allow God to work in us to become the whole individuals that He has intended us to be and remain pure. While we are dating or courting, that means understanding that sex before marriage is fornication and fornication is sin. Sin brings with it complications and is to be avoided at ALL COSTS, for the wages of sin is death.
In short, breaking up is hard to do and it can become nasty. That is why we must take our time, use wisdom about who we date and understand that we are not to be involved sexually before we take the marriage vow. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him (James 1:5).
I don't know about you, but I've suffered enough damage in my life, so let us continue to press on towards the high calling of Christ Jesus and be encouraged!
Always keepin' it real-your sister in Christ,
MINISTER V